The Glorious Truth

 

(Above- one of my earliest cupcake photos, I was very proud of these at the time)

I’m a perfectionist.  A grade of an ‘A-’ is almost the same as an ‘F’ to me.  I almost never feel pretty enough, thin enough, talented enough, good enough…  I usually assume everyone else has it all together, and since I don’t… I must be doing it all wrong.  Some of these thoughts are just part of my wiring… and many are thanks to the society we live in.  Our entire economic system is completely dependant on everyone being so dissatisfied with their life that we have to always be buying things that will surely help us be thinner, prettier, more organized, more popular, happier.

I think women are particularly hard hit with this… we are all convinced that other women are prettier than us, smarter than us, better wives, better moms… you name it!

I’ve realized overtime that in some small way I may be simply another voice in your head reminding you that you are not good enough… your cupcakes don’t look like mine, your parties don’t look like mine, your photos aren’t as pretty as mine…

Today I want that to stop!

No one is perfect, and that certainly includes me!  Can I make pretty cupcakes?  Yes.. but that’s not the whole picture.   When I post a photo on this blog you don’t see that my kitchen that looks like a bomb just went off… You don’t know that my family had pizza for dinner because I spent all day making pretty cookies…  You didn’t hear me snapping at my little girls to get away from my project.

Please consider that I’m only showing you what I want you to see!  You don’t see the cookies I’ve made that are ugly.  Yes, ugly… I assure you that not everything I touch turns out beautiful!  More than once, I have put an entire batch of cookies or cupcakes right into the trash!  And, not every photo I take magically comes together the way I imagined.  For that matter, when I post two or three photos of a project, those are out of a set of maybe 40 photos.  Not to mention, I often use Photoshop to enhance the lighting, and have even been know to edit out a misplaced sprinkle or two!

So, just for today I want you to see me in a bit more realistic light….

Here I am (with hubby) in my gourmet kitchen…

Don’t we look glamorous?  =)

And here are some of the less than “glorious” treats I’ve made over the years.  Granted,  I don’t take photos of projects I’m really not happy with, so these are sort of the best of the worst  =).  This may be the one and only time I post 100% un-edited photos!

Not exactly photos you’ll see on the cover of a magazine anytime soon, right?  =)

I do hope that my pretty photos (the ones I usually post) are a source of inspiration for you, but I never want anyone to read my blog and feel that they are somehow lacking.  Every person on earth has so many wonderful strengths, please don’t expect that yours should be exactly the same as mine.  And don’t be discouraged by the well lit, cropped, and edited version of my life that I usually show you… it’s not the whole picture!

Baking, party planning, crafting… these should be fun activities!  Allow yourself to enjoy the process, regardless of the end results.

I have spent the past several years baking hundreds and thousands of cookies, cupcakes and treats.  They don’t all come together perfectly, but in the end most of them are eaten, enjoyed and then I get to “practice” some more another day!

From one imperfect person to another…

Happy Baking!

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140 Responses to “The Glorious Truth”

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    Mary — March 9, 2011 at 8:16 pm

    I appreciate this post sooo much! It's hard to remember the big picture/reality sometimes, and I (as most women do like you mentioned) constantly struggle with the comparison game. "I'm too ________ and not __________ enough." lol Love your blog and all that you share!!!

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    DreamgirlLisa — March 9, 2011 at 8:20 pm

    Glory, I love that you posted this. I know just how you feel, and yes, I have compared my treats to yours(knowing mine aren't nearly as nice), and feel like you are the epitome of perfection! I really do think you have a special talent, but it makes me feel better that you have the same doubts that I do, and I'm sure everyone does. I have really wondered before if YOUR kitchen looks as bad as mine does after I am done baking something!! haha!! Your kindness and generosity has always shown through and I think you are "Glorious" just as you are, imperfections and all! Keep inspiring us!!

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    The Brown Trading Co. — March 9, 2011 at 8:22 pm

    Glory you are such a truly gorgeous and authentic person….I Love It!!!

    Great post and oh so very true.

    Keren
    xxxx

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    SweetSugarBelle — March 9, 2011 at 8:28 pm

    Best post ever. Period.

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    Marie @ Myculinarycalling — March 9, 2011 at 8:29 pm

    I would say I do think like that all the time! (even though I do know its not totally true!)

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    Hope — March 9, 2011 at 8:33 pm

    This is, by far, the best post that I have ever read, on any blog ~ EVER!! You are such a wonderful, real person! BRAVO!

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    selphishgirl — March 9, 2011 at 8:33 pm

    This post is obviously from the heart and I loved reading it.We are all in this together and when we support each other, life tastes so much sweeter.

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    Annemarie — March 9, 2011 at 8:36 pm

    This was just what I needed to read! How true it is! Thank you so much for posting this!

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    Cupcakes and Lemonade — March 9, 2011 at 8:38 pm

    You don't know how much I needed this, exactly today. So many nights I go to bed feeling so inadequate after reading on FB and the blogs about all the amazing parties that are hosted. Or when you post something you really are proud of and no one comments. But, at the end of the day, it's so important to realize that it's not for show, it's what makes us happy! Crafting, designing and hosting parties makes me happy!
    Love your honesty! and your gourmet kitchen!

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    Tracey Lau — March 9, 2011 at 8:44 pm

    When I look at people, I look to their heart, the truth of who they are, I look for the authenticity…today I have seen a little more of you…and you are truly beautiful. Thank you, from my heart to yours. xx

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    queenbeegymboree — March 9, 2011 at 8:49 pm

    This just makes me love what you do and your blog even more! Thank you for this :)

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    barb — March 9, 2011 at 9:14 pm

    Great post! I love looking at your pretty pictures but I love these pictures even more!!!

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    Sue — March 9, 2011 at 9:15 pm

    I LOVE this post!!! I wish I knew how to edit!?! :)

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    Joy Adams — March 9, 2011 at 9:23 pm

    Now that is the Glory that I know and love. Thanks for easing up on yourself and the rest of us. I love you.

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    birthday girl — March 9, 2011 at 9:26 pm

    Glory. I love you for posting this. I do! You've spoken my heart and my insecurities in one beautifully written post. Thanks.

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    Yael — March 9, 2011 at 9:40 pm

    Thanks for this post Glory. I do think you really understand what a lot of us out there are feeling. I still don't think I will ever get to the level of your baked goods but at least I have fun trying. Baking and decorating is what gives me pleasure- unfortunately I don't do it enough because I simply have no one to give it to and leaving it for me and hubby to eat would be disastrous! Thanks agian for your insights and keep on doing what you're doing.

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    Anonymous — March 9, 2011 at 9:44 pm

    Thanks! Well said, well received, much appreciated.

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    Maria — March 9, 2011 at 9:46 pm

    Glory,

    You are an inspiration to me in so many ways. This was a fantastic post and really "spoke" to me. You Rock!

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    mother hen — March 9, 2011 at 9:48 pm

    keepin' it real! Thank you!

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    Marcela — March 9, 2011 at 11:21 pm

    Thank you! This post makes you more of an inspiration

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    Joy — March 9, 2011 at 11:40 pm

    Oh my, think I love you just a little more now. Thankyou. Whats good to know is that we all feel the same. I kept tidying my house to distraction after visiting a tidy (not going out to work) neighbour, then realised that she was slowly doing things that I do and thus becoming less show houses and more homey house.

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    Deborah — March 9, 2011 at 11:48 pm

    This was a wonderful, inspiring post. Thank you!!

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    SugarDeaux — March 10, 2011 at 12:09 am

    Glory-I'm new to your blog and so glad I arrived on a day when you posted such a wonderful post! I was just talking to a cookie friend about this very thing a few days ago! So glad you feel the same! We ALL look at other's posts and pictures and think "Oh no! How am I going to acheive something as good as that!!" I know I do.

    A batch of cookies I made a few weeks ago were these red, yellow, black & white flowers and butterflies. Halfway through I got up, said something less than lady-like and was going to throw them out! I was tired and thought they looked terrible and too bold.
    Hub asked what was so wrong. He liked them. I told him about every mistake on them -how so-n-so could do way beter thin black lines–and he just said, "They look happy." So, I didn't throw them out. The customer loved them and I posted them and people thought they were nice. I decided I liked them, too :) We are our own worst critics!!
    Karen ( SugarDeaux Cookies & Cakes)
    Come join me on my FB page!!
    http://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/SugarDeaux-Cookies-Cakes/116436868378248

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    bibbitybob — March 10, 2011 at 1:31 am

    What a lovely post, thank you x

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    the occasional pat — March 10, 2011 at 1:59 am

    Up untill now I have rather envied you (not nice I know) but I am so glad that have the same fears, reservations and doubts and that you posted them. It makes many od us feel better.

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    Anonymous — March 10, 2011 at 2:20 am

    Oh my goodness- you are a true GEM! What a wonderful, heartfelt blogpost. One that made me smile from start to finish. You hit the nail on the head about us all doubting ourselves. On a day when I wasnt the greatest parent, or friend, or cook, I really needed your post. Thankyou so much for you post and for your fabulous blog. Katrina xx

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    Amy K — March 10, 2011 at 2:45 am

    Indeed!! Thank you for this honest & transparent post. I too am learning to embrace my imperfections.
    However, truth be told, your "best of the worst" are fabulous in my amateur eyes. Your creations are always inspiring, even if we don't always see the "mishaps".
    Blessings…

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    Pam — March 10, 2011 at 3:49 am

    Glory….thank you for being so honest and real. It helps every one of us remember the truth.

    As a blogger, I know it is so easy to "hide" behind the blog curtain and only say things and show photos that "look" flawless or much more perfect than they really are. And as a result, it cultivates dissatisfaction all around…..including in me. In actuality, *I* can't be who I portray on my blog. lol Kind of interesting.

    Thanks for the reminder and for driving me to be thankful for my REAL life and all the things that God has blessed me with. You are a true inspiration in a multitude of ways. Hugs to you!

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    Sparkling Sugar Sweets — March 10, 2011 at 4:10 am

    A beautiful post and so true! We often forget to realize that on the internet people only allow us to see what they want us to see. We all try so hard to be perfect and forget to have fun! Thank you for sharing all that you do! :)

    Brandy

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    Jody (east coast cookies) — March 10, 2011 at 5:23 am

    Glory – Thanks for keeping it 'Real'!
    I definitely am one of those who thinks I'm *not pretty enough, thin enough, happy enough, wealthy enough etc'. Too often I think I (unconsciously) take myself out of situations/opportunities due to feelings of inadequacy.
    It's great to see pics of others that we 'aspire' to and realize they're no different than us.

    Thanks for the reality check!
    -Jody

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    HiLLjO — March 10, 2011 at 5:34 am

    Everyone has a place in this world and a role. Whatever yours is, embrace it. No one else can be you!It's easy to focus on the negative things surrounding us when the world is going at this crazy pace. Focus on the positive always rather than "I'm too short." Think "I can wear 5" heels!!!"

    I love everything you make and the first cupcake picture… mighty fine!

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    Misc Momma — March 10, 2011 at 5:45 am

    This was such perfect timing for this post. Now, if only I could take it to heart. I'm just a hobbyist cookie maker/baker, and that is all I ever want to be, but reading your blog and others makes me sometimes just want to quit. Like, I KNOW I'll never have the creativity to come up with these brilliant ideas…but when I make cookies (with borrowed ideas) and they don't even compare, it is soooo discouraging. So, thanks for this post.

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    G — March 10, 2011 at 5:59 am

    Thank you for sharing your "true self" with us. LOVE this post.

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    Janine — March 10, 2011 at 6:10 am

    Pretty awesome, you are a good woman. Thank you for everything you do.

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    Rosie @ Sweetapolita — March 10, 2011 at 6:26 am

    Oh, Glory! I literally am borderline teary reading this, and yes, true, I may be highly emotional, but what a candid, beautiful, and SO TRUE post. I, literally, could have written that entire thing because I feel the exact same way. You're one of the most amazing women I've come to know. So glad we connected! xo

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    Nadia — March 10, 2011 at 6:43 am

    I have been there! I always felt that way until my most perfect friend (beautiful, wealthy, perfect marriage, fabulous home, amazing job), during a girls beach trip, confessed that she was thin due to anorexia, her gorgeous diamonds were all fakes, she hated her husband, had lots of affairs, and horrible debt. Boy, did I learn an important lesson about how I had been looking at others! I no longer assume everyone else lives a great life and now just focus on making mine great. No more comparing myself to others!!! Wonderful post! And I like your "imperfect" creations. They look great to me!!

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    Heather — March 10, 2011 at 7:03 am

    Thank you for this post! Thank you for sharing your heart and the fruits of your labor. Love your blog, can't help but be happy when I read it :)

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    RosieP — March 10, 2011 at 7:16 am

    At 54 (will be 55 in June) I'm a novice baker and I'm just starting to create my blog. As such, I'm just beginning to photograph what I've been baking and I've been pulling my hair out because none of my photos are "good enough". I appreciate your honesty posting what you did, and I hope it will give you some pleasure to know that because of what you posted you have helped me to not be so hard on myself. Sometimes being a perfectionist comes down to getting stuck and being tempted to give up. Your words inspire me to keep the faith that I will improve and that "perfection" isn't the end goal. Thank you!

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    Deb — March 10, 2011 at 7:42 am

    WONDERFUL post…thanks for making me feel it's ok if things don't come out perfect! Love all your post, I don't bake much but love reading about all the treats you make and love the pictures..the failures look A+ to me!

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    Grace — March 10, 2011 at 7:54 am

    I love this post. I feel so much better and useful. Thank you Glory (of Love)

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    Ema — March 10, 2011 at 10:13 am

    Well, I liked you before. But I REALLY like you now! Thank you for the beauty you bring into our lives, and the reality of it all too.

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    Anonymous — March 10, 2011 at 10:17 am

    great post. as women, we need to stop beating ourselves up. it's hard enough to be a wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, worker. Women need to raise each other up, not tear each other down. don't we do cookies, cakes, parties, deocrating for fun, not competition? thanks for making us realize to step back and love ourselves a little more.

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    Hollie - TheSevenYearCottage.com — March 10, 2011 at 10:17 am

    I believe "comparison" to be one of the greatest weapons of mass destruction in satan's arsenal, especially among women. Thank you so much for sharing your heart!

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    Cristin (Pinkie) — March 10, 2011 at 10:45 am

    Best post that I've ever read of anyone ever. Thanks so much for reminding us that we are so much harder on ourselves than anyone else ever would be. Like you said, we all have special God given talents and while we might think we are lacking, we are often inspiring others. Thanks so much for the beautiful post!

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    Joy Burkhart — March 10, 2011 at 10:58 am

    Wonderful post – heartfelt and transparent! Love ALL the photos and your great posts.
    A+
    XoXoXo
    Joy

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    Sharon — March 10, 2011 at 10:58 am

    GLory you are too wonderful and pure, what a beautiful woman REALLY look like… to ever come close to not being enough…even what you might see as faults you use to bolster the world. SUch a fabulous post!!! LOVE you!!! PS Come over here and influence my children!!! haha

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    Louby Lou — March 10, 2011 at 11:34 am

    Thanks for this post. Though your blog is a wonderful source of inspiration and I love your beautiful photography as much as anyone, it's easy to forget that you're a mere mortal like the rest of us. Thanks for the reminder, from one perfectionist to another, because sometimes we all need that little reassurance.

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    Pilar — March 10, 2011 at 11:59 am

    Hi,

    I never comment because my English is not the best, but I want to thank you for this post, very thoughtful.

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    Bridgett ~ La Bella Cook — March 10, 2011 at 1:01 pm

    Your honesty is spot on! I think us women like to think and act like we all have it together but add in blogging to our already huge list and we all tend to snap at our kids! Your creations are perfection and don't doubt yourself as I can imagine you are doing a great job. You are very talented.

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    thelittlebeanboutique — March 10, 2011 at 1:07 pm

    Oh, Glory! I just adore you!! Thank you for such a great post and for sharing whats in your heart!! You made so many women smile today!!

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    Sharnel — March 10, 2011 at 1:53 pm

    I love this post Glory. You've inspired me to do one similar soon.
    You are such a gorgeous soul. Can't wait to see you again real soon.
    xx

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    The Sweet Spot — March 10, 2011 at 1:59 pm

    Glory, this is honestly your best post, ever!

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    Oh Heavenly Cupcakes! — March 10, 2011 at 2:17 pm

    Thankyou for this post , its perfect and just im sure what alot of us needed to hear :0) I never thought you did anything baking wise that wasnt perfection x

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    MyCakeSchool — March 10, 2011 at 2:37 pm

    Amen! Such a great post—me & my fish sticks & pizza eating family can so relate! :0) I also take 50 pictures of the same plate of cupcakes, and often shoot videos in the kitchen just to the left of where the bomb exploded :0)!!

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    Teresa — March 10, 2011 at 2:43 pm

    Oh… how much do I love this??? More than any words can ever say!!! Thank you for being so real!! I just love you more…

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    NiamhG — March 10, 2011 at 3:00 pm

    I think that is, perhaps, one of my favourite EVER posts. So honest. So, thank you. My friends nicknamed me the perfectionist confectionist and I am. It drives me insane. Thank you for a wonderful, honest, funny post. Seriously!

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    cookies n more — March 10, 2011 at 3:18 pm

    Hi there. Just wanted to let you know that when I read this post, I cried. Thank you for writing it. i personally, really appreciated it.

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    Elizabeth — March 10, 2011 at 3:21 pm

    Great Post.. We are our own worst crytic. My sister always said I was the prettiest (because I am skinny) and the best cook, yes I spend a lot of time in the kitchen but like you won't use it if it does not look good, and I have the 'time' to be patient in the kitchen! On the other hand I think she is smarter and more creative. But as I you get older, I believe we become wiser and more accepting. My 6yr old niece said to me one day (on a cooking visit to my place) 'You are a great cook, and I don't get to spend time in the kitchen with my Mum. But she can cook really great when she has the time & is patient in the kitchen' Chldren have such wisdom, what happens to that when we grow up & start beating ourselves up??

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    Linda V @ Bubble and Sweet — March 10, 2011 at 3:36 pm

    Inspiring post as always but for a different reason. Thank you for sharing the real you.

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    Whimsy Cookie Co. — March 10, 2011 at 4:39 pm

    dito…to what everyone else has said!! THE ABSOLUTE BEST POST! It really is about how much fun goes into making and creating whatever it is .. be it cookies, cakes, party planning, etc. AND when we all can come together as women, Moms, wifes and support each .. that is what its about..not the comparison!! Amen!! You truly are Glorius!!!! Thank you!!

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    Tiffani — March 10, 2011 at 4:51 pm

    Best post EVER,Glory! Thank you!!!

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    D — March 10, 2011 at 4:54 pm

    I look at your website several times a week. This post has made me your A#1 fan. I DO look at all the treats and think i'll never be that good. This has given me the Ok to try anyway. Thanks :)

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    Angela@queenoftartscakes.com — March 10, 2011 at 4:56 pm

    I loved this post and your pic in the kitchen was SOOO appreciated! I would LOVE a behind the scenes, REAL look at the lives of some of the party girls I follow. There is so much pressure to outdo one another it seems, when the reality is no one 'has it all' 100% of the time! You brought a human element to this and put a real face on it, thank you.

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    Ira Vergani — March 10, 2011 at 4:58 pm

    Thanks you so much for this post and reminding us that we all have strengths and weaknesses!

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    Anonymous — March 10, 2011 at 5:18 pm

    Inspiring……it gives me hope and encouragement to keep on dreaming and practicing!! Thank you so much!!

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    Cecilia — March 10, 2011 at 5:28 pm

    You are always amazing and wonderful to me!
    Love you!
    ~Cecilia

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    Pampered Sweet Tooth — March 10, 2011 at 5:37 pm

    Your candid expression to let us readers, fellow bakers and entrepreneurs in to who you are and the core of what you do, touches and moves me more than you know. All I can say is…thank you, thank you, thank you! It warms my heart and has literally moved me to tears. Individual use blogging as a platform for a variety of things. I am OVERJOYED to know that my imperfectly perfect life and blog is not the only one.

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    Keisha — March 10, 2011 at 5:38 pm

    That post brought tears to my eyes…thank you for keeping it real :)

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    Anonymous — March 10, 2011 at 5:56 pm

    I had tears in my eyes whilst reading this post, thank you so much! I am trying to start my own cupcake business and have only had 1 order. I didnt think it went that well so I am ready to give up but this post has helped me to see its not the end of the world.
    Thank you!!!

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    Celebrating Moments by Marcie — March 10, 2011 at 6:25 pm

    YOU GO GIRL!!!!! LOVE LOVE LOVE this post!!! xoxoxoxox

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    Evelyn — March 10, 2011 at 8:28 pm

    Thank you for the reality check! This was great!

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    Yaneri — March 10, 2011 at 8:34 pm

    oh my these are simply divine!! Love all your yummy cupcakes.
    I'm a new baker and looking for inspiration and know for sure that I found it here!! I'm your 2,140 follower!!

    Happy Baking!!
    Yaneri from Sweet Bakes Of Mine
    sweetbakesofmine.blogspot.com/

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    Erin — March 10, 2011 at 10:59 pm

    You are crazy! You are so super talented and just like you said, no one is perfect! I went through the same thing you did and that's without a husband. So, you are already one up on me. :) I know what it's like to be your worst critic…but you are a phenomenal decorator and I'm sure if I knew you in real life I'd want to be your friend! Love the Easter Cupcakes and the Onsies.

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    Moneyrake — March 10, 2011 at 11:40 pm

    Oh how cure your kid looks with the cake!

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    Anonymous — March 10, 2011 at 11:43 pm

    I just wanted to say you got a lovely family activity.

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    Kay Lefort — March 11, 2011 at 12:36 am

    Glory! What a treasure you are!
    How incredible to 'expose' your true self to all of us and show that we are really all the same, deep down.
    This truly makes us realize what is really important. Thank you, my friend!

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    Rowaida — March 11, 2011 at 2:29 am

    Glory you are such a truly gorgeous person, love your post!

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    Ratita Golosa — March 11, 2011 at 9:37 am

    I enjoyed this post. If before and I liked his work, now I appreciate much more, for their sincerity by having CoML is truly what it costs you some pictures come out perfect … etc …
    Many hugs from Barcelona! Montse

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    bridget {bake at 350} — March 11, 2011 at 3:13 pm

    I love this post!

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    Lynn's Life — March 12, 2011 at 4:27 am

    wow, i thought i worked @ my blog,lol,i take 3-5 pics & put up the best. i have made food i wouldnt add a pic 2(my moms baked beans) because altho they didnt get mushy like i like them,lol. anyways ive made plenty of crappy looking food in my 46 years,but it all tasted yummy,well most of it anyways.i love that u strive 4 perfection. so i like what u said. btw u & ur family look like very nice people.

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    Dolores Neilson — March 12, 2011 at 1:02 pm

    Glory,
    I have so much respect for you and your courageous post. How selfless of you. You could have tried to deceive us into your "perfect-ness", yet chose not to. Your honesty will inspire many people to attempt your creations knowing that failing is part of the process and all ok. Thank you on behalf of many women.

    Dolores

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    Anonymous — March 13, 2011 at 7:54 am

    THANK YOU SO MUCH! You'll never know what your comments meant to me today.

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    Leoni — March 13, 2011 at 3:56 pm

    What a beautiful post, I could have written that post verbatim! Even your kitchen looks like mine! I too burn cookies (especially macarons lol) have had cakes sink, cupcakes look ugly and icing melt and like you I also only show my best work.
    Maybe we should have a "show us your disaster" or tell us "your worst flop" lol
    Thank you so much for sharing, I now feel normal ;-)
    cheers,
    Leoni

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    Shannon — March 13, 2011 at 9:13 pm

    What a lovely post. I now feel a bit better about my Hydrangea Cupcakes that were rechristened "Impressionist Monet cupcakes" because they weren't quite as stunning as yours.

    Keep up the lovely work and we will dream of a life that is perfect behind the facade but secretly sigh with relief over the truth :)

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    Suguna — March 13, 2011 at 9:55 pm

    AHA moment.

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    Di-licious — March 15, 2011 at 4:31 am

    Thank you for this wonderful post. It was the kick in the pants I needed to get back on track with my own blogging : http://di-liciouscupcakes.blogspot.com/2011/03/baking-resolve.html?spref=fb
    Love your work!
    Di-licious xxx

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    Teinika — March 17, 2011 at 6:03 pm

    I want to THANK YOU! To me, this post is much, much, much more than about baking. I too am a working mom with 2 small kids and i think we all have a tendency to be hard on ourselves. I loved your "regular" pics just as much as I loved your glamour shots. :-)
    We are all wonderfully made and I just want you to know how much this post touched me. I am skimming through the comments and i see everyone feels the same. You are the best and I think everyone on here agrees!!!!!!!

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    taupeisthenewblack — March 20, 2011 at 4:17 pm

    LOL I have to say though… I think those little grassy Easter ones are ADORABLE!!

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    Elaine — March 21, 2011 at 9:27 am

    I can't tell you how appreciative I am for this post. I work at a hospital for girls with eating disorders, and perfectionism is rampant! Just as you wrote, everyone else has their lives together, everyone else is thinner, smarter, better.

    These thoughts plague my girls every day. It consumes them. So when I read your post, it touched my heart that you would overcome your own tendency to show us only the perfect pictures to show us the real you.

    Now I can't wait to read this to my patients. haha, how funny is that? Bringing in a reading from a baking blog to the eating disorder unit?? :)

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    Ileana — March 22, 2011 at 9:07 am

    Loved this post! It helps keep things into perspective. Thank you! You are still a great source of baking inspiration for me!

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    le@thirdontheright — April 24, 2011 at 4:33 am

    that is a lovely post – you have a very big heart as well as great skills – love seeing your work and your beautiful family – best le

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    tara — April 24, 2011 at 1:24 pm

    you throw good food in the trash?! now i like this post, but why throw away perfectly fine (ugly) cookies? they are edible no? there are so many people in this world who eat nothing but a cup of rice a day and you throw away some cookies because they…
    you get my point! :)
    don't do it again..

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    Moni Graf — April 26, 2011 at 8:39 pm

    Wow. I just came by your blog for the 1st time today (via my good friend and fellow quad-mama, Charity Donovan). My friend wanted me to see the AWESOME hydrangea cupcakes you came up with. Very impressive, by the way. I started looking at your site and fell more and more in love, because I have recently started making fun cupcakes after obtaining the book, "What's New, Cupcake?"… or something along those lines (I made the caramel fortune cookies and fruit roll-ups made into roses designs). But, I digress. This post stopped me in my tracks.

    I'm not normally one who comments on other people's blogs, esp those I don't know personally, but I felt you deserved all the recognition and kudos for a job well done and a feeling well-stated. As evidenced by the fact you're STILL getting comments on this so long after the fact, I'd say you did something right!! Except that last person who scolded you for throwing out ugly cookies. What a tool.

    Thank you for your candor….and great ideas!

    Moni

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    Moni Graf — April 26, 2011 at 8:40 pm

    Oh, and keep up the good work!

    Moni (again)

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    Glory — April 26, 2011 at 11:06 pm

    Thank you all for your wonderful comments!
    Moni- Your comment is especially sweet and thoughtful (and funny!), thank you!

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    Michelle — June 8, 2011 at 12:27 pm

    Simply said – THIS is a Perfect Post! :) Thank you for sharing, because it is how most of us feel and you hit the nail on the head. This shows us that the project CAN look this pretty – Maybe not all 12 cupcakes – and we've all been there. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! For your inspiration, your honesty and your direction on how to achieve these little masterpieces. :)

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    Apron Appeal — June 9, 2011 at 12:26 pm

    The naked truth! It's beautiful. If I can stop snooping around your site I may actually get to posting my version of your hydrangea's today. I'm such a procrastinator.

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    erin — July 7, 2011 at 11:24 am

    Thanks so much for this lovely post. It was very encouraging!

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    erin — July 7, 2011 at 11:25 am

    Thanks so much for this lovely post. It was very encouraging!

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    Trish - Sweetology101 — July 14, 2011 at 7:11 pm

    i love this post…something I can relate too…

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    Dena — July 15, 2011 at 6:57 am

    From a new reader… this is a great post. Thank you for your honesty!

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    Anonymous — July 15, 2011 at 1:09 pm

    Just discovered your blog yesterday! Discovered this post today! I SO needed to read this! Thank you for being so honest. I plan on spending a lot of time here, your work is beautiful! You are already an inspiration to me!! :) Blessings….

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    Niloufer Ahmed — July 15, 2011 at 10:09 pm

    A truly inspiring blog entry my dear Glory! I think I have finally come across that one blogger who is out there writing for us! Thank you Thank you for this beautiful, thoughtful post and your honesty! NOW I truly feel that I can get up and do better after messing up! I pray that god always guide your hand and heart with love! Blessings!

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    aconnoley — July 29, 2011 at 4:20 pm

    Thanks for this VERY important reminder! You just made me want to try a new dessert recipe tonight!! You are the best kind of teacher…real, honest, and encouraging! (I try to be that way in my classroom too.)

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    Leticia — August 18, 2011 at 9:37 am

    Just read this and it made my day. I read different blogs and think this ladies must have it all together & with their gourmet kitchens. Thank you for the reality check you just gave me. I love your blog and one that I refer to alot. I may not post comments but I read it almost on a daily basis. Tonight I'm thinking I will try the Piña Colada cupcakes. I've been craving them for a while but today I will treat myself to them. Thank you again for taking time out of your busy day to do this blog! God bless!

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    Karyl — August 22, 2011 at 12:01 pm

    Wow! Thanks so much for that. I really want to appreciate all the beautiful things you do without hating you or hating myself. And, oh yeah, your ugly things are way beautiful!

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    Bea @ CancunCOOKIES — October 17, 2011 at 8:17 pm

    Love this post! I have to remember to come back when I feel (name whatever) and lift my spirit… you are a beautiful soul, Glory!

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    Joan@chocolateandmore — November 2, 2011 at 5:03 pm

    This is a wonderful post, all bloggers should read this! Thanks for the inspiration! And I know exactly what you mean about only letting people see what you want them to see. I have a picture somewhere on my blog (I'll never say where) and the trash can is in the background, lol, but I had to use the picture! I have since moved the location of that can so it'll never show up again, hopefully.

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    christine — November 7, 2011 at 9:31 am

    i am naturally a big cry baby, with no exception when i read this post. i am always feeling this way but i strive to be the best i can. i always put on the happy face to go along with the pretty cake, when inside im crying about how many times i failed and why it doesnt look like the picture online. thank you so much for this post! it is amazing to hear these things coming from somebody else. much love!

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    Catherine Todd — January 18, 2012 at 7:17 pm

    I appreciate this post, too, believe me! I was feeling exactly how you described, imagining that you have this fabulous perfect life and take such beautiful gorgeous pictures of it; all "so much better than me." You really made my day. With your talents, inspiration AND honesty! Your friend, CatherineTodd2 at gmail dot com.

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    Heather — February 4, 2012 at 8:59 pm

    What a great post! So honest, and important for everyone to hear. I do LOVE the pretty pics :)

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    Claudia — February 13, 2012 at 5:39 am

    Glory, thanks for this post. I'm so glad I just discovered you! I just spent the last half hour looking, browsing through your blog and being blown away by your talent. I love baking, party planning and making cute little things for my daughter. Sometimes I even surprise myself on how well they turn out and others…. well, not so much. I always thought pretty things came out of Martha Stewart like kitchens and craft rooms. Thank you for sharing with us that you don't need grand to create grand.

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    Erica — August 14, 2012 at 12:33 am

    Glory I hve just found your blog and I am amazed at your talent. I hear you when you say that you don’t feel that you are perfect enough etc….. You are so right that these ideas are put on us by society. i just want to encourage you and let you know that most of us feel that way. Everyone you meet seems so together but they are not. It is great when someone is honest enough to say how they feel. It means others don’t feel lthat they are the only ones feeling this way. I can’t wait to try your chocolate mint brownie recipe and I am going to make the candy corn cheesecakes for halloween this year. They loook so cute in the cup with a ribbion and spoon.
    Cheers
    Erica

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    Harmony — August 15, 2012 at 7:07 pm

    OH MY GOSH! I LOVE LOVE LOVE this post. Thank you so much. I recently found your site and frequently refer back to it for inspiration for my own projects. (Most recently I am hosting a butterfly themed baby shower for a dear friend). I also own an indoor play place for kids and we do a TON of parties. I just went full time and am just getting in to hosting the whole parties myself and LOVE your ideas. So to read this is such a blessing. I think you hit the nail on the head. I almost never feel like I’m “enough”, and am forever comparing myself to the most “perfect” of people…(You included) and I have to tell you; I was so touched by your post. You are now officially one of my favorite people.

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    baizura abu bakar — August 29, 2012 at 7:39 am

    I agree with u, no one is perfect. But you are very talented. You are very sincere and down to the earth. I love your post very, very much dear! Keep up a good work!

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    MaryK — August 31, 2012 at 7:58 pm

    Oh my gosh….I think I love you. Feeling better about myself already. ;-)

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    Donna — October 5, 2012 at 12:28 pm

    What a wonderful, honest, and heartwarming post! I read it at a time when I was beating myself up and questioning my own self worth in and out of the gourmet kitchen. Thanks for putting things back into perspective. (And the best of your worst are still pretty darn good!)

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    danira — October 24, 2012 at 2:16 am

    New fan here!! i never really leave comments on blogs. i just snoop around and take what i need but i couldnt this time! i havent had a chance to read every single one of your recipes but im in love with your blog and your wonderful recipes and tutorials!!! im 24. mother of 3. trying to take my creativity to another level! wanted to say thanks for taking time out of your busy life to teach and share with us all your wonderful knowledge. youre awesome!! xoxo :)

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    Stephanie aka Cookie Therapy — November 13, 2012 at 1:51 am

    I Love This blog more and more each post that I read. I am no where near your talent or the talent that I saw in SLC BUT I have come so far with what I CAN do with a cookie, cupcake and cake in the last year. But more important – I have learned so much about myself and what I can accomplish. Cookiers, both novice and professional, are all wonderfully nice and talented people. I have never met so many wonderful people in one place – and I count you right up there at the top… ESPECIALLY after reading this blog! You ARE awesome!

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    Lucia Brown — December 2, 2012 at 10:28 pm

    I came acoss your website looking for a recipe for an oil-based cupcake, and I can’t tell you how happy I am that I did. Your talent is absolutely AMAZING and your creations are OUTSTANDING. This post speaks to the heart of a lot of people. No, we may not be enough in the eyes of sociey but they are only looking through the eyes of their flawed vision.

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    Teowai — December 11, 2012 at 1:48 am

    I think my girl crush just blossomed into love. This is an awesome post. Sometimes I feel the same way about not being good enough and seeing a talent such as yourself speak(write) in such an inspiration. I needed to read this today. :)

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    Shraddha — December 22, 2012 at 6:39 pm

    Just passed by your blog yesterday and get hooked by it immediately, I am a recent learner of baking and keep on surfing on the net, and was surprised to see the kind of stuff you bake and what perfection and control you have in this art. This post inspire me to be better and grow day by day…as I have an awesome mentor to look upto…Keep up the good work…I hope I too can post some pics like yours someday….!!

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    Erika — March 30, 2013 at 6:51 pm

    Thank you so much for saying that “out loud”! I always feel guilty when I ask my husband to go out and buy something for us to eat because I couldn’t bother to cook us a proper dinner while I was making something to post on my blog. Now I know I’m not alone! ;)

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    Gretta — April 4, 2013 at 4:18 am

    I’ve read this blog many of times. I didn’t think I could actually make decorated cookies, but I haveI. Made some ugly ones too, but my co-workers keep me going. They love your sugar cookie recipe. Make them frequently. I have recommended your site to several of my friends. I’m not a frosting person, but I so love your butter cream cheese frosting… even my picking child loves it. Thank you Glorious.

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    Lori Stead — April 19, 2013 at 9:23 pm

    Best thing I’ve read in a while! You are honest and genuine… and really intuitive when it comes to understanding the way a woman’s mind works. You are a blessing! Be blessed.

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    Sandy — April 28, 2013 at 2:15 pm

    This is a keeper! So timely for me too – my therapist was trying to give me this exact message yesterday! I guess I just could have read this post and all the comments instead!

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    Sandy — April 28, 2013 at 2:17 pm

    Now I need to step away from the computer and attack my bombed kitchen!

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    Marine — May 15, 2013 at 7:54 pm

    Goodness Glory! I just sent you a mail telling you how beautiful every treat that you post is, and then I read this post; You are fan-tas-tic!

    People like you make others as happy as they can be.

    Thanks again!

    Marine, from France..

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    Anne Tan — May 29, 2013 at 3:15 am

    Hi Glorious! I chanced upon your blog couple of months back and I am glad I found you. Have enjoyed reading your blog ever since and looking at your pretty cakes, cookies, great combinations of colors etc really makes my day and inspires me. I tried baking cupcakes following your advise but lo and behold..my chocolate cupcakes overflowed on to the pan which reminds me of my furkid’s poo, my butter cupcakes stays away from the paper cups etc etc etc …never ending flaws and failures !!! Just wonder when am I going to produce nice and presentable cupcakes.

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    shruti — June 21, 2013 at 2:56 am

    Your blog is an inspiration for me..anytime when i fail and my experiments does not turn the way i want your blog hels me and boost me to keep my passion for baking which i never realized that i have before coming to california. Thanks a lot.

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    Mar — July 17, 2013 at 3:51 am

    I’ve never left a blog comment in my life, but I loved this article. What humility it takes to put that out there and it was so refreshing and uplifting to read. You are clearly very talented and on top of things–which is exemplary. But it’s sure nice to have such a pleasant reminder that we’re all human and in this together. Your little girl is darling in that photo. Love your site.

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    Ilona Kupec — August 25, 2013 at 6:50 pm

    Glory, it was a blessing to meet you and your family! Your sweet spirit reflect everything you do ! Thank you for sharing your gift. Ilona

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    Michelle — September 10, 2013 at 10:21 pm

    What a great post! I’ve been on your site a handful of times but am subscribing so I can be updated with all your greatness and creativity. Thanks for helping us beginners out with all your innovative tips. I look forward to using some of your concepts as I begin brainstorming for my sister’s FIRST baby shower. You and your site will be my background guru :-) Thanks for all your time and effort!

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    Theresa McDonald — October 7, 2013 at 12:55 pm

    I’ve just discovered your blog and I am inspired. As a mother of 2 year old triplets, I never feel like I’m living up to the standards that I think I should so it was great to read this post. I will definitely keep you in mind the next time I bin a batch of baking!

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    Dianne — October 22, 2013 at 1:27 am

    Hi Glory, What a breath of fresh air! I find your whole website so inspirational and down to earth and via your blog it is good to know that you experience the same issues the rest of us do! You bake and decorate some of the most beautiful cupcakes I have ever seen and I really appreciate that you perfect your basic recipes too. I can’t wait to try out the hydrangea cup cakes. Your site is going straight to “favourites”. Thank you.

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    Aletha — October 30, 2013 at 6:43 pm

    Hi Glory.

    Thanks for the gourmet kitchen post. That was appreciated. It’s true that we all have our individual talents and it’s good to be thankful for them whatever they may be. The key, as you said, is to enjoy it and also to be proud of trying something new regardless of the outcome.

    Aletha

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    Marta Torres — February 15, 2014 at 9:21 pm

    Hello Glory, thank you so much for your post. I really identify my self with you when you mention about being a perfectionist and doubting sometimes about what we do.
    Maybe it’s time to accept things as they are and keep trying our best no matter what.
    Just discover your blog but I’ll came back for sure.
    Thank you. Marta

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    Kathleen — February 16, 2014 at 6:05 pm

    Thank you

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    Heena — March 21, 2014 at 4:22 am

    Feeling better after reading this post. Thank you for the encouragement.

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