The Glorious Truth

 

(Above- one of my earliest cupcake photos, I was very proud of these at the time)

I’m a perfectionist.  A grade of an ‘A-‘ is almost the same as an ‘F’ to me.  I almost never feel pretty enough, thin enough, talented enough, good enough…  I usually assume everyone else has it all together, and since I don’t… I must be doing it all wrong.  Some of these thoughts are just part of my wiring… and many are thanks to the society we live in.  Our entire economic system is completely dependant on everyone being so dissatisfied with their life that we have to always be buying things that will surely help us be thinner, prettier, more organized, more popular, happier.

I think women are particularly hard hit with this… we are all convinced that other women are prettier than us, smarter than us, better wives, better moms… you name it!

I’ve realized overtime that in some small way I may be simply another voice in your head reminding you that you are not good enough… your cupcakes don’t look like mine, your parties don’t look like mine, your photos aren’t as pretty as mine…

Today I want that to stop!

No one is perfect, and that certainly includes me!  Can I make pretty cupcakes?  Yes.. but that’s not the whole picture.   When I post a photo on this blog you don’t see that my kitchen that looks like a bomb just went off… You don’t know that my family had pizza for dinner because I spent all day making pretty cookies…  You didn’t hear me snapping at my little girls to get away from my project.

Please consider that I’m only showing you what I want you to see!  You don’t see the cookies I’ve made that are ugly.  Yes, ugly… I assure you that not everything I touch turns out beautiful!  More than once, I have put an entire batch of cookies or cupcakes right into the trash!  And, not every photo I take magically comes together the way I imagined.  For that matter, when I post two or three photos of a project, those are out of a set of maybe 40 photos.  Not to mention, I often use Photoshop to enhance the lighting, and have even been know to edit out a misplaced sprinkle or two!

So, just for today I want you to see me in a bit more realistic light….

Here I am (with hubby) in my gourmet kitchen…

Don’t we look glamorous?  =)

And here are some of the less than “glorious” treats I’ve made over the years.  Granted,  I don’t take photos of projects I’m really not happy with, so these are sort of the best of the worst  =).  This may be the one and only time I post 100% un-edited photos!

Not exactly photos you’ll see on the cover of a magazine anytime soon, right?  =)

I do hope that my pretty photos (the ones I usually post) are a source of inspiration for you, but I never want anyone to read my blog and feel that they are somehow lacking.  Every person on earth has so many wonderful strengths, please don’t expect that yours should be exactly the same as mine.  And don’t be discouraged by the well lit, cropped, and edited version of my life that I usually show you… it’s not the whole picture!

Baking, party planning, crafting… these should be fun activities!  Allow yourself to enjoy the process, regardless of the end results.

I have spent the past several years baking hundreds and thousands of cookies, cupcakes and treats.  They don’t all come together perfectly, but in the end most of them are eaten, enjoyed and then I get to “practice” some more another day!

From one imperfect person to another…

Happy Baking!

143 comments

  1. From a new reader… this is a great post. Thank you for your honesty!

  2. Just discovered your blog yesterday! Discovered this post today! I SO needed to read this! Thank you for being so honest. I plan on spending a lot of time here, your work is beautiful! You are already an inspiration to me!! :) Blessings….

  3. A truly inspiring blog entry my dear Glory! I think I have finally come across that one blogger who is out there writing for us! Thank you Thank you for this beautiful, thoughtful post and your honesty! NOW I truly feel that I can get up and do better after messing up! I pray that god always guide your hand and heart with love! Blessings!

  4. Thanks for this VERY important reminder! You just made me want to try a new dessert recipe tonight!! You are the best kind of teacher…real, honest, and encouraging! (I try to be that way in my classroom too.)

  5. Just read this and it made my day. I read different blogs and think this ladies must have it all together & with their gourmet kitchens. Thank you for the reality check you just gave me. I love your blog and one that I refer to alot. I may not post comments but I read it almost on a daily basis. Tonight I'm thinking I will try the Piña Colada cupcakes. I've been craving them for a while but today I will treat myself to them. Thank you again for taking time out of your busy day to do this blog! God bless!

  6. Wow! Thanks so much for that. I really want to appreciate all the beautiful things you do without hating you or hating myself. And, oh yeah, your ugly things are way beautiful!

  7. Love this post! I have to remember to come back when I feel (name whatever) and lift my spirit… you are a beautiful soul, Glory!

  8. This is a wonderful post, all bloggers should read this! Thanks for the inspiration! And I know exactly what you mean about only letting people see what you want them to see. I have a picture somewhere on my blog (I'll never say where) and the trash can is in the background, lol, but I had to use the picture! I have since moved the location of that can so it'll never show up again, hopefully.

  9. i am naturally a big cry baby, with no exception when i read this post. i am always feeling this way but i strive to be the best i can. i always put on the happy face to go along with the pretty cake, when inside im crying about how many times i failed and why it doesnt look like the picture online. thank you so much for this post! it is amazing to hear these things coming from somebody else. much love!

  10. I appreciate this post, too, believe me! I was feeling exactly how you described, imagining that you have this fabulous perfect life and take such beautiful gorgeous pictures of it; all "so much better than me." You really made my day. With your talents, inspiration AND honesty! Your friend, CatherineTodd2 at gmail dot com.

  11. What a great post! So honest, and important for everyone to hear. I do LOVE the pretty pics :)

  12. Glory, thanks for this post. I'm so glad I just discovered you! I just spent the last half hour looking, browsing through your blog and being blown away by your talent. I love baking, party planning and making cute little things for my daughter. Sometimes I even surprise myself on how well they turn out and others…. well, not so much. I always thought pretty things came out of Martha Stewart like kitchens and craft rooms. Thank you for sharing with us that you don't need grand to create grand.

  13. Glory I hve just found your blog and I am amazed at your talent. I hear you when you say that you don’t feel that you are perfect enough etc….. You are so right that these ideas are put on us by society. i just want to encourage you and let you know that most of us feel that way. Everyone you meet seems so together but they are not. It is great when someone is honest enough to say how they feel. It means others don’t feel lthat they are the only ones feeling this way. I can’t wait to try your chocolate mint brownie recipe and I am going to make the candy corn cheesecakes for halloween this year. They loook so cute in the cup with a ribbion and spoon.
    Cheers
    Erica

  14. OH MY GOSH! I LOVE LOVE LOVE this post. Thank you so much. I recently found your site and frequently refer back to it for inspiration for my own projects. (Most recently I am hosting a butterfly themed baby shower for a dear friend). I also own an indoor play place for kids and we do a TON of parties. I just went full time and am just getting in to hosting the whole parties myself and LOVE your ideas. So to read this is such a blessing. I think you hit the nail on the head. I almost never feel like I’m “enough”, and am forever comparing myself to the most “perfect” of people…(You included) and I have to tell you; I was so touched by your post. You are now officially one of my favorite people.

  15. I agree with u, no one is perfect. But you are very talented. You are very sincere and down to the earth. I love your post very, very much dear! Keep up a good work!

  16. Oh my gosh….I think I love you. Feeling better about myself already. 😉

  17. What a wonderful, honest, and heartwarming post! I read it at a time when I was beating myself up and questioning my own self worth in and out of the gourmet kitchen. Thanks for putting things back into perspective. (And the best of your worst are still pretty darn good!)

  18. New fan here!! i never really leave comments on blogs. i just snoop around and take what i need but i couldnt this time! i havent had a chance to read every single one of your recipes but im in love with your blog and your wonderful recipes and tutorials!!! im 24. mother of 3. trying to take my creativity to another level! wanted to say thanks for taking time out of your busy life to teach and share with us all your wonderful knowledge. youre awesome!! xoxo :)

  19. I Love This blog more and more each post that I read. I am no where near your talent or the talent that I saw in SLC BUT I have come so far with what I CAN do with a cookie, cupcake and cake in the last year. But more important – I have learned so much about myself and what I can accomplish. Cookiers, both novice and professional, are all wonderfully nice and talented people. I have never met so many wonderful people in one place – and I count you right up there at the top… ESPECIALLY after reading this blog! You ARE awesome!

  20. I came acoss your website looking for a recipe for an oil-based cupcake, and I can’t tell you how happy I am that I did. Your talent is absolutely AMAZING and your creations are OUTSTANDING. This post speaks to the heart of a lot of people. No, we may not be enough in the eyes of sociey but they are only looking through the eyes of their flawed vision.

  21. I think my girl crush just blossomed into love. This is an awesome post. Sometimes I feel the same way about not being good enough and seeing a talent such as yourself speak(write) in such an inspiration. I needed to read this today. :)

  22. Just passed by your blog yesterday and get hooked by it immediately, I am a recent learner of baking and keep on surfing on the net, and was surprised to see the kind of stuff you bake and what perfection and control you have in this art. This post inspire me to be better and grow day by day…as I have an awesome mentor to look upto…Keep up the good work…I hope I too can post some pics like yours someday….!!

  23. Thank you so much for saying that “out loud”! I always feel guilty when I ask my husband to go out and buy something for us to eat because I couldn’t bother to cook us a proper dinner while I was making something to post on my blog. Now I know I’m not alone! 😉

  24. I’ve read this blog many of times. I didn’t think I could actually make decorated cookies, but I haveI. Made some ugly ones too, but my co-workers keep me going. They love your sugar cookie recipe. Make them frequently. I have recommended your site to several of my friends. I’m not a frosting person, but I so love your butter cream cheese frosting… even my picking child loves it. Thank you Glorious.

  25. Best thing I’ve read in a while! You are honest and genuine… and really intuitive when it comes to understanding the way a woman’s mind works. You are a blessing! Be blessed.

  26. This is a keeper! So timely for me too – my therapist was trying to give me this exact message yesterday! I guess I just could have read this post and all the comments instead!

  27. Now I need to step away from the computer and attack my bombed kitchen!

  28. Goodness Glory! I just sent you a mail telling you how beautiful every treat that you post is, and then I read this post; You are fan-tas-tic!

    People like you make others as happy as they can be.

    Thanks again!

    Marine, from France..

  29. Hi Glorious! I chanced upon your blog couple of months back and I am glad I found you. Have enjoyed reading your blog ever since and looking at your pretty cakes, cookies, great combinations of colors etc really makes my day and inspires me. I tried baking cupcakes following your advise but lo and behold..my chocolate cupcakes overflowed on to the pan which reminds me of my furkid’s poo, my butter cupcakes stays away from the paper cups etc etc etc …never ending flaws and failures !!! Just wonder when am I going to produce nice and presentable cupcakes.

  30. Your blog is an inspiration for me..anytime when i fail and my experiments does not turn the way i want your blog hels me and boost me to keep my passion for baking which i never realized that i have before coming to california. Thanks a lot.

  31. I’ve never left a blog comment in my life, but I loved this article. What humility it takes to put that out there and it was so refreshing and uplifting to read. You are clearly very talented and on top of things–which is exemplary. But it’s sure nice to have such a pleasant reminder that we’re all human and in this together. Your little girl is darling in that photo. Love your site.

  32. Glory, it was a blessing to meet you and your family! Your sweet spirit reflect everything you do ! Thank you for sharing your gift. Ilona

  33. What a great post! I’ve been on your site a handful of times but am subscribing so I can be updated with all your greatness and creativity. Thanks for helping us beginners out with all your innovative tips. I look forward to using some of your concepts as I begin brainstorming for my sister’s FIRST baby shower. You and your site will be my background guru :-) Thanks for all your time and effort!

  34. I’ve just discovered your blog and I am inspired. As a mother of 2 year old triplets, I never feel like I’m living up to the standards that I think I should so it was great to read this post. I will definitely keep you in mind the next time I bin a batch of baking!

  35. Hi Glory, What a breath of fresh air! I find your whole website so inspirational and down to earth and via your blog it is good to know that you experience the same issues the rest of us do! You bake and decorate some of the most beautiful cupcakes I have ever seen and I really appreciate that you perfect your basic recipes too. I can’t wait to try out the hydrangea cup cakes. Your site is going straight to “favourites”. Thank you.

  36. Hi Glory.

    Thanks for the gourmet kitchen post. That was appreciated. It’s true that we all have our individual talents and it’s good to be thankful for them whatever they may be. The key, as you said, is to enjoy it and also to be proud of trying something new regardless of the outcome.

    Aletha

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  38. Hello Glory, thank you so much for your post. I really identify my self with you when you mention about being a perfectionist and doubting sometimes about what we do.
    Maybe it’s time to accept things as they are and keep trying our best no matter what.
    Just discover your blog but I’ll came back for sure.
    Thank you. Marta

  39. Thank you

  40. Feeling better after reading this post. Thank you for the encouragement.

  41. Amen to that! Thank you so much for your honesty. It’s hard to remember the big pictute sometimes.Truly, THANKS.

  42. You are an incredible woman, Glory!! You are really something special and I’m delighted that I happened to come across your post. Wow! What a talent you are! Thank you so much for sharing your world with us! Blessings to you and your family!
    Have a wonderful holiday season! :-)

  43. Thank you for this amazing post. It is so rare to read such honnesty on internet. You and your fantastic baking are inspirational. Thank you.

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